Niche vs. Normal

During the past few weeks I’ve had several conversations with “normal” (read: not techy, geeky, or even social-media) type-people about “What I Do” for a living. I try to sum it up and say I’m a writer, which is usually followed up with the fact I write for Forbes.com. (For “normal” people, elaborating on all the other writing and consulting I do is too confusing, so I leave it at that.) I then get asked what I write about, and I usually just say I write about technology and social media.

Most of the time, this leads to “oh, cool! So do you get to work from home?” or something like that. I think people have visions of me living the life of Carrie Bradshaw, with a cute little desk and a closet full of lots of shoes that I wear to glamorous parties with important people and spend most of my time at happy hours.

(…..ok…so that part isn’t that far off.)

In the last week, though, the response has been from these non techy, geeky, or social-media types: “Ohmygosh! So what do you think about the Te’o thing??”

…as if that was the most important thing to happen in the industry in the past few weeks. As if – I’ll just jump right to it – Aaron Swartz didn’t die, which highlights even more problems in our entire justice system that we need to discuss…problems that are way, way beyond technology. Problems “normal” people should care about.

But the thing is, “normal” people care about a football player carrying on (or, being duped into…who really knows…) a fake online relationship. They don’t care a pioneer of so much of the internet technology we use today killed himself as a result of a broken legal system.

In fact, I dare you to find a “normal” newspaper that carried a headline about Aaron’s death.

This is the reality: tech bloggers live in a bubble. We recycle our own bullshit analysis. We care only what each other thinks – because “normal” society doesn’t give a fuck about what the headlines on Techmeme are. Should we dare to think about what “normal” people think, I can only imagine the audience we could reach – and the impact we might have on greater society.

I know what happens when I take a broad approach to my writing and reach for the greater good. (Let’s just say there are more shoes and more happy hours.) The repetitive conversations about Te’o – and not Aaron – made me realize that a few things need to change around here.

For those of you that have already had this epiphany, I’d love to hear your thoughts. Feel free to shoot me an email. I’m curious to hear how you struck a balance between writing niche and writing “for the normal.”

On Being Wrong – And Why We Want To Hate Facebook

Tonight I came across a Facebook post by Robert Scoble – a man I highly respect, especially after he stood through a very awkward introduction several years ago during which I babbled about how similar San Francisco is to Seattle.

He shared a nearly-damning blog post that almost debunked several articles that said that, despite mass hysteria, Facebook was NOT spontaneously posting your old private messages (circa 2010 and earlier) to your Timeline. Facebook users were suddenly finding that somewhat private conversations were reappearing on their Timelines, and were SURE these were private messages sent two or more years ago.

I never believed the hype, but today went to my Timeline and saw that some very personal conversations were now visible in my Timeline. I was sure these were once private messages, but they weren’t in my message inbox – and I didn’t bother to search my email.

#JournalistFail.

I tweeted about it. I posted several Facebook updated. I created yet another round of mass hysteria, leading people down yet another path of “Yes, they ARE!”

The truth is – they aren’t.

Several years ago, I started using Nutshell Mail to send my daily Facebook digests. After seeing several people share the Mashable/TechCrunch/Snopes reports, I finally searched gmail with the full “private message” contents from my Timeline in 2010 to find these posts in my Nutshell Mail archives.

And lo and behold, they were actually wall posts.

Not a single thing on my timeline was a ever a “direct message.”

Yet during the previous 2 hours, dozens of my followers and friends shared my warnings, convinced posts on their timelines were private messages too.

And then, Scoble just posted this on Facebook:

“In looking further at the messages on my timeline (that I’ve now hidden) they look private and intimate and that those wall messages from 2009 and 2010 are, indeed, troubling, because our usage of Facebook was different back then. Many people left “private style” messages on our walls because they assumed only that person would see those. Back then that was probably a safe assumption. Which is why I’ve hidden all messages done before 2011.”

And it’s true. We did. And we’ve changed.

And now we hate Facebook for reminding us. We hate Facebook for bringing up our past – a past that we publicly shared.

Yes, I was wrong. But you can’t hate Facebook for sharing what you shared, either.

And you absolutely can not hate a service that you continue to use despite any issues you have – but don’t even pay for – which is a whole other issue in itself.

Yo, TechCrunch…..

Last week a staff writer for FORBES (read: someone who actually works for them – not just a freelancer contributor, like myself) wrote a tongue-in-cheek article about how TechCrunch has been lacking in F-bombs recently. It was a little off-center even for FORBES, but nonetheless funny.

TechCrunch then immediately responded “Yo, Forbes, Fuck You”, which really only directed more traffic to FORBES (dummies) and demonstrated that they actually do still lack the ability to choose any other word than “fuck” – or form otherwise.

The TC team then took it one big step too far. Mike Butcher, European Editor for TechCrunch, tweeted this to the writer of the FORBES article (which has since been deleted):

The irony is that only an hour or so prior to the original FORBES article, all contributors of FORBES received this in their email from our editors:

**Reminder**
Using expletives can offend and alienate your readers and hurt your credibility. Please don’t use foul language in your posts and be especially mindful to never use it in your headlines.

FORBES has been around a lot longer than TechCrunch – and clearly for a good reason. I may not write for the biggest tech blog on the block these days, but undoubtedly one of the classiest media outlets on the planet. I’ll take that over the “freedom” to drop F-bombs any day.

Yes, I’m A Woman In Tech – And These Are My Choices

It’s true. I’m a woman. And it’s also true I “work in tech.” I’m a hybrid social media strategist and freelance writer that focuses on emerging tech and social media trends. I spend a few hours a week in the trenches, and another couple of hours writing about what I see. (Ok, it’s more than a few hours. But you get the point.) I’ve been immersed in technology since I was about 18 months old, when my dad sat me down at his lap at the PC in our house in 1986. (You do the math.)

I have a photo of that moment somewhere at my parents house – and don’t you worry, I’ll share that as soon as I have the time to find it – but the reality is that technology has always been a part of my life. I know Prodigy as a social network, not as a band. I remember AOL on a 3.5″ floppy disk. I remember Tripod, Geocities, and Greymatter. Livejournal? Please. I already owned my own domain and paid for hosting.

At this time, I was apparently “blogging” – writing about everything from cheerleader tryouts to my latest high school crush. Some of the friends I made through these early social networks have also (to no surprise) now made careers for themselves via blogging and social media strategy.

Was I different than the cheerleading and boys I wrote about? At the time, it didn’t connect with me that I was at home on a Friday writing in my “diary” and they were out doing things most 16 year olds do on a Friday night. (Which, to this day, I’m still not sure what that is.) When I finally discovered I could make a career out of writing and developing social strategy (something that must be in my blood) I created a business for myself, and found a passion that had been smothered by a public education system that tells students that both “writing doesn’t pay well” and – this is true – girls should reconsider careers in technology.

The New York Times recently highlighted Faceook’s Sheryl Sandberg and her advice that women lead ““higher-harder-faster” lives. I chose this path after following the traditional route and being bored. I chose this path because I could do better than the traditional route. I chose this route because this is the way that I can make a difference.

In the Times article, there is a suggestion that women who pursue this path consider all options to maintain work-life balance – even freezing eggs – so that they always have the choice to maintain their type of work-life balance. At 27, my Facebook is really a Babybook, with some announcements of weddings sprinkled in-between. I’ve been told many times what is the “normal” route for other women.

Clearly, I’ve never followed the “normal” route. Knowing you have “work-life” balance is being satisfied at the end of the day with both. While women in tech may be faced with more difficult choices as they are presented with the demands of conflicting schedules – and the conflict between the head and the heart – there are, as the Times article mentioned, options. Now is not forever.

Yes, I am a woman in tech. But just like everyone else, I make choices – and will continue to have to make choices – to impact both my work and my life. They aren’t easy, but they are mine. And as the debate about women in tech rages on, I hope at the end of the day someone will finally realize that – just like all other debates about women – the choice is not yours.

Tech-Free Saturdays – And Why I Don’t Take Them

In the debut of her new column in the Seattle Times, local journalist (and friend) Monica Guzman describes how she has embraces new media, but doesn’t let it drown her. Instead, she has implemented tech-free Saturdays. For anyone who knows Monica personally – or has just followed her career for the last several years – this concept seems most unlike her of all people. However, she has found a way to disconnect one day a week. (What she does during this day, I have no idea.)

I’ve found myself unplugged for a few hours here and there, but I feel so attached to my iPhone that I recently bought a new case for it that allows me to carry my ID and debit card with my phone so that I could eliminate my wallet, as I always have my phone with me. My phone’s rarely less than arm’s length from me, and a former colleague-turned-mentor chastises me every time a notification goes off during lunch or a coffee meeting. (I just can’t shake the need to know if I have a new email.)

My life is centered around technology. I now freelance fulltime, blogging for 3-5 publications at any given time (the list currently includes Forbes, Verifone’s SAIL blog, VentureBeat, TechNewsDaily, and Ebyline), and I do social media strategy for a few other firms and individuals. Though this might sound like a lot, the work ebbs and flows; some days there may several breaking stories and a few deadlines with more conference calls than I’d like, and other days I may just be waiting to receive back edits.

It’s on those days – usually Tuesdays and Wednesdays – that I am more disconnected, but only because of the ebb and flow of my work. On those days my phone is still in my hand, but I may be walking the lake an extra lap, or running errands. I may take a nap in the sunshine – but ready to answer the phone or a text message. I may schedule a lunch ahead of time, knowing it will be a down day.

I take these moments to enjoy life – but I don’t totally disconnect, if only because I know that my future depends on the ability to respond and react if needed. I’ve been yelled at a few times for being “too available” and have learned the limits of what needs a truly immediate response. But I’m always aware of my clients’ needs. Being constantly connected gives me full control of the decisions I can make and on what timetable. It is what allows me to walk the lake that extra lap – or push everything out a day to enjoy a full day with a friend from out of town. Should I miss those emails, those phone calls, or that emergency conference with my client’s client, I miss that luxury.

None of my days are tech-free, only so that I can live my days as I dictate. This was part of the dream of leaving behind the 9-5 grind – and staying connected, as imprisoning as it seems, is really the only way to allow that type of freedom I dreamed of.

Why You Shouldn’t Invest In Facebook*

*Because of social media hype.

Yesterday, Facebook announced their IPO, much to the delight of dozens of tech bloggers who suddenly acted like a pack of wild wolves as soon as the S-1 statement was available. It’s safe to assume that many people are curious whether they should invest in Facebook once shares become available later this year, questioning if they’ll kick themselves later for not being one of the first – as many have done for not being the first to get in on Apple or Google.

Incidentally, last night I was reading Behavior Gap by Carl Richards on my Kindle and came across this sketch – one of his many famous drawings depicting financial advice on a napkin. In light of this era of blogs – and the fact that many people follow certain blogs like sheep – I thought I’d share it here. Take it with a grain of salt, but this is exactly why you shouldn’t invest in Facebook because of any social media hype.

Social Media is Dangerous Territory

Social media is dangerous territory. Not only can it be a source of panic for those who stumble upon status updates or photos that they shouldn’t read or see, but employers and schools are admittedly using Facebook to ensure you’re a good fit for your potential college, law school, or future job. This, of course, raises all kinds of legal red flags, as your future school or employer could discriminate against you illegally based on information they find in your profile.

Then there’s also the issue raised by the generational gap between Gen Y and older admission and/or C-level execs. Let’s face it: every generation has their own set of slang, and the truncated messages communicated via social platforms don’t make it any easier to understand just what the hell anyone says half the time. The generational gap can also create confusion when pop culture references become part of the discussion, and if misinterpreted, could easily cost you that chance at your dream job or law school.

Case in point? Last night, my 21 year old sister posted this as her Facebook update, referencing Weeds – a popular TV show.

Tonight, my dad mentioned that he saw the update and called her during his lunch break to yell at her, berating my sister for mentioning “that kind of behavior” publicly on Facebook. After she explained that “Weeds” is a TV show, my dad realized the real problem – the generational gap that can cause massive confusion when people read social media updates but don’t understand them.

How many HR execs and admission panels are guilty of the same assumptions? I think it’s safe to say several. No matter how you use social media, it’s dangerous territory and we’re walking a dangerous line. Myself included.

Why Social Media Isn’t A Waste of Time

A running joke at LockerGnome is that I mention my ex-boyfriends in my blog posts too often. (To be honest, it’s a little true.) As a result, I’ve tried to leave them out as much as possible lately – which leaves them available to mention here. (Don’t worry – this is a relevant story. Keep reading!) Before I got my “big chance” to work with social media for a living, I dated a guy while waitressing and blogged for fun. My ex, however, worked in the finance industry, and enjoyed poking fun at my blogging, Twitter and Facebook hobbies. We still talk, and, of course, he still doesn’t get it.

But he should, because research is proving that social media isn’t a total waste of time. In fact, Jeff Bullas recently posted this insightful infographic about how people are getting quite a benefit from using Facebook, Twitter, and other forms of social media. Jeff highlights that:

  • 18% of people 50-64 years old use it to connect with others who have similar hobbies
  • 17% use it to find “love”
  • 50% use it to reconnect with old friends
  • It is a source of entertainment as 250 million photos are uploaded every day and there are 100 million videos to watch
  • 41% of the class of 2011 used it to look for a job
Here’s the full infographic:

What do you think? Is social media useful – or a total waste of time?

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T-Mobile Holiday Flashmob!


Flashmobs are quickly becoming the key indication that your brand is big – everyone from Michael Jackson to Lady Gaga has been immortalized by flashmobs directed and executed by their fans. Even a volunteer chorus directed by the Seattle Symphony burst into Seattle’s Nordstrom last year.

Last week, T-Mobile surprised their own customers, and other shoppers, with their own (extremely well-designed) flashmob slash flash campaign. With director Alfonso Gomez-Rejon and Musical Director Paul Mirkovich at the helm, the company surprised shoppers at the Chicagoland area’s Woodfield Mall with a performance of an updated spin on the holiday classic, “(There’s No Place Like) Home For The Holidays”. Dozens of lovely ladies dressed in the signature T-Mobile pink dresses sang, danced and clapped through the shopping center, dazzling shoppers and adding a little bit of extra sparkle to the holiday shopping season. Even Carly – the girl from the T-Mobile commercials and ads – made a cameo towards the end of the performance!

What a fun surprise for those shopping at Woodfield Mall! Are you expecting (or hoping for) a surprise this holiday season?

(Disclosure: This post is sponsored by T-Mobile.)